Wednesday, 24 August 2016

I don't understand

Dear Cherry

I've been agonising for days about how to put paw to paper to tell you my latest bit of news, as there is no easy way to say it.  I'm just going to have to blurt it out.

My Mummy and Daddy aren't together anymore.

I feel like it's somehow all my fault.  I feel as if my coming into their lives has somehow destroyed what they had before they adopted me.  Is it my fault Cherry?  Mummy says it isn't.  Mummy said that her and Daddy are just too different, and that she has changed a lot since her and Daddy got together, so that if anyone is to blame - it's her.  She explained that Daddy is too much of a free spirit.  That he likes complete freedom to just go off on a trip wherever he fancies for however long he fancies being away for.  She said he doesn't suit being "tied down" (whatever that means, I never saw Daddy being tied to anything), and so she has set him free. 

Mummy on the other paw, is the sort of human that is quite content to be at home.  She says that when her and Daddy got together, she liked to travel around a lot and see different places too, but that over the years she has settled down a lot and is now more than happy to stay where she is.  Mummy also told me that she has always wanted Me (a boy Greyhound) and that now I've come along, she feels complete.  So maybe it is my fault after all.   Maybe if Mummy hadn't found me, she'd still be travelling around with Daddy.  I don't know what to think Cherry.  It's all very confusing.

Luckily Mummy and Daddy are still friends.  They keep in touch regularly.  Daddy even came around for Mummy's birthday and gave her a lot of lovely presents.  Daddy still loves me too and gives me lots of fuss when he visits.

Mummy and I are now living in Nanny Karen's house.  Nanny loves having us around all the time and has told us that if we left she'd feel incredibly lonely.  Nanny's garden is huge with lots of lovely grass for zoomies.  She has also cleared out her larder cupboard so there is an entire shelf just for my food!  The big guest room at the back of Nanny's house is now Mummy's and My room.  It's very comfortable, and I enjoy sleeping with Mummy every night.

Although this is a very strange time, I still feel like the luckiest hound in the world.  Lucky that I still have my Mummy and a comfortable home.  I know a lot of hounds find themselves back in kennels when their Mummy's and Daddy's split up.  So I'm very fortunate that Mummy loves me so much that I can trust her to never leave me.

Mummy says that we will still come back to visit you soon.

Love & Licks
Arik  xxx


  1. Dearest cousin Arik,

    It most certainly isn't your fault! My mummy says she picked up on the fact that things weren't right between your hoomans when you came to visit, and Mummy says she doesn't think they were well suited because she could tell your mummy was a homebird - whatever that is.

    I think our Mummies are very similar. My mummy likes staying at home too. Most of her interests - including me - are things she does at home, and she seems happy that way.

    If your mummy hadn't got you, she'd still be different to your daddy, it's nothing to do with having you. It's because sometimes hoomans who are living together change, and they don't change together. They both want different things out of life.

    I think they probably stayed together longer because of you. If you hadn't come into your mummy's life, they may have separated sooner.

    So stop being a silly sausage, it's not your fault.

    Ooh sausages, yum yum.

    Anyway, it sounds like life is lovely at your nanny Karen's, and from the photos your mummy posts on that Facebook thing, both you and your mummy seem happy. My mummy says she's sensed a shift in energy around your mummy, a contentedness has settled on her, so stop worrying dear Arik. Everything will be okay.

    We are all looking forward to seeing you again.

    Love, Cherry xxx


  2. Dear Arik, I don't know you, or your hoomans, but what Cherry said is right. It isn't your fault. Hoomans keep changing and sometimes they change differently and grow apart. I think it is wonderful that they are still friends, as sometimes they start to hate each other.
    Please don't be too upset about it, and enjoy having your Mummy and Nanny Karen.
    Lots of love
    Auntie TJ (I hope you don't mind me being Auntie to you as well as to Cherry).

    1. Thank you Auntie TJ. I just want my Mummy and Daddy to be happy. They have made me so happy by giving me a home, I want them to be happy too. If they are happier apart, then I guess that's OK.
      Love & Licks
      Arik xxx

  3. Arik, ((((hugs))) us 2 legged folks are a funny lot at times, suffice to say you are loved by your mummy and you are not to at fault for what has happened. Chin up fella and keep your tail wagging :) Spoffie

    1. Hi Uncle Spoffie!
      Thank you for your reply. I must say hoomans can be very strange creatures. How do you cope with all these changes in your emotions? Don't you ever drive yourselves mad? How do you keep up with yourselves?
      Anyway, thank you for your reassuring words. My tail is still wagging.
      Arik xx